Are you doing a good job? Are you happy with your progress in life? In my masterclass for the National Association of Black Accountants Twin Cities Chapter, the audience fell silent when the questions appeared on the screen. In today's busy culture, we can focus on tasks and lose sight of our vision, goals, and values.
Do you know what you want and how to make it happen?
Did you know during our early childhood, we soak up everything we hear, and our young brains believe everything we feed it? During these years, if we teach our minds a love of learning, health, and kindness, we develop our most strong beliefs about what we deserve and who we are. At the same time, if we are exposed to negativity, doubt, or fear, we can take on life-limiting beliefs and habits that can stick with us for the rest of our lives.
All of this information stays in our subconscious, and it's there to keep us safe. It's how we learn that the fire is hot by burning our hands, or how we know not to talk to strangers because our parents drilled that fear home for us every single day. In reality, some of these beliefs hold us back in life and keep us in a state of fear and ignorance.
Typical limiting beliefs take the form of:
"I can't do that because"
"I don't deserve that because"
"If I get this opportunity, I/my family can't handle the consequences."
"If I do this, then people will think."
"They'd never let someone like me do something like that."
"I'm sure other people are better than me."
Sound like you? No judgment; I know I've said them on more than one occasion. So what do we do now?
It's never too late to change your thoughts, behaviors, and habits. The truth is there is no such thing as balance when things are evenly beautiful across every area of your life all the time. Instead, most of us experience waves of wins, gratitude, pain, loss, or fear. Things shift and can trigger feelings that hold us back without understanding why. I have a few rules for my clients to encourage them to keep going.
Use everything you have.
Commit to taking action and trying something new.