I started writing this book tethered to my breast pump. I was a new mom pumping five times a day for my one-year-old son when I wasn't chasing my three-year-old son or learning my new job. Three years earlier, I married my high school sweetheart, had a baby, and moved back to our hometown for a better life as a new family. We dreamed of a big house with rooms for our boys to explore and be themselves.
Each day I felt like I was trading in my dream for theirs. I noticed in my journals that I was having a hard time believing I could do all of these significant roles well. As an overachiever, I started to resent the new responsibilities preventing me from being my best performer at work. How could I be the best mother, wife, and manager? I started to doubt myself, and suddenly I started to talk negatively to myself, one day I heard myself say "I'm a failure" I'd never spoken that out loud before, I always believed I could do the impossible, but I was stretched so thin I couldn't do one more thing no matter how simple it was. I found myself skipping my affirmations, forgetting to write in my journal, and missing my check in with friends.
I was burned out. Does that sound like you? Between midnight feeding schedules, traveling for work, and making time to be with my family, I started to trade in the pieces of my personality that made me, me. I stopped being funny, lost my empathy for my direct reports, and started losing my confidence in my ability to lead. I got stuck trying to motivate myself to believe that I could change my situation. Without strong leadership at work, I longed for external validation, awards, salary, or a promotion to prove I was making an impact at work. When approval never came, I decided to set a new goal, to finish my book and help anyone else find their way out of the tight spot of doing too much. Listen, I am an overachiever, performance has never been an issue for me at work but as I look back on my career when I didn't have a vision I lost myself in my corporate identity. Instead of bringing myself to work, I expected my job to fulfill me. I missed a lot of lessons that could've helped me sustain my success and keep my life balanced between my personal and professional goals, but I didn't have anyone to guide me.
I developed the TRIBE framework to unlearn the habits that made me burn out early in my career, and this fall, I'm sharing these strategies with you!
Getting Unstuck: A Guide To Moving Your Career Forward is for anyone feeling stuck, lost, and overwhelmed at work. I created a system based on my battle-tested strategies and stories from helping the highest-ranking corporate leaders in America find their vision and values.
Thank you for sticking with me. Whether we met at a speaking event, worked together, or randomly started a friendship, your support means the world to me. If you would like me to write on a particular topic, issue or address a question, please drop me a note in the comments!
I'm here to help! Meredith
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